“That’s Not Your REAL Kid”

I have noticed that most of the adoption pieces floating around the internet are geared towards people who are adopting or considering adoption. That makes sense, yes, but they’re not raising a whole lot of awareness for anyone else. If we don’t write articles geared towards everyone, how will we ever change the adoption stigma? (There is a stigma; admit it, don’t admit it, there is.)

The pieces I write, they’re for everyone. This one, in particular, is a fun piece, but it’s still educational. It’s doing very well on the Adoptimist Facebook page, and I’ve been getting a lot of positive response—(otherwise I wouldn’t even bother you with it).

Check it out. It’s short, but to the point. If you think it’s a good piece to share, please share it. It’s easier to spread awareness about cool stuff when other people help. The opening story happened in 2008, soon after we adopted F from China.

Here’s the link:

That’s Not Your Real Kid

 Mother and daughter // 2008

Real Kid

real kid 2

Thank you for being here!

The DS&D Crew


  1. Sharon on September 4, 2016 at 10:17 pm

    Just wanted to speak up for those of us clods who asked a poorly worded question but did not mean what it sounded like. I once met a lady who told me it was the 10th anniversary of the day she adopted her daughter. She was so excited and so proud. My question to her was, “why did you adopt? “As I write this I get re- embarrassed at the question. What I really wanted to know was, “tell me your story. ” I just couldn’t come up with the words at the time. Thankfully, she was very gracious and told me the story minus the personal details of why they were adopting. It was a beautiful story and I was glad she shared it with me. So I guess I just wanted people to know that not everyone has malicious intent. Sometimes they are just a clod who is genuinely wishing you well and wants to get to know you.

    • Robyn on September 4, 2016 at 10:29 pm

      I think it’s so cool that you spoke up for the other side! Here is what I can tell you from this side: If I had met you in a store or party and you said to me “why did you adopt?” I would WANT to tell you. Anyone on this side pf things can tell the difference between someone who is warm and kind, like you– and someone who isn’t. I can only speak for myself when I say this, but I love talking about adoption. You know me, if I’m not stuffing my face with cake or super busy, I will talk to anyone, anywhere about adoption. I just don’t like when I have to defend it. 🙁
      This was a great comment. You rule, my friend. XOXOXO