What Are You Going To Do?

We just celebrated Rosh Hashana. Rosh Hashana always falls in the fall. It’s either “early” or it’s “late,” but it’s always in the fall. Apples and honey, the shofar and the Torah: Rosh Hashana marks the first day of the beginning of a new year.

At services, the Rabbi asked our congregation: “What do you want to do this year?

There were a lot of responses, things like: 

“I want to get organized!”

“I want to try baseball!”

“I want to do better at math!”

All worthy goals, every one of them, positive and worthy. Not one person was like:

“I want to be passive aggressive!”

“I want to be unwelcoming!”

“I want to suck!”

Rosh Hashana isn’t about that. It’s not about bitterness. It’s about sweet things and new beginnings.

I’m kind of pissed at myself right now though, because our family has something we want to do this year (something really cool) and none of said anything.

When I asked my 9 year old daughter, F, if she wanted to shout it out, she wanted no part of it. I was bummed because the thing we want to do has a lot to do with F.


(Nose ring is fake. Tattoos aren’t. Just kidding.)

F is the Dim Sum side of Dim Sum and Doughnuts. She has also been a huge part of many of the DS&D decisions as of late. Unfortunately, I could feel the Rabbi wanting to move on, and I just didn’t have time to guilt her.

So, I moved on to JJ (the 7 year old).



I leaned into her and whispered “Do YOU want to announce what we want to do this year?” to which she replied “Mommy! I thought it was a SECRET!”

She was right, but I thought she might want to at least throw out a vague version since she, the Doughnuts side of DS&D, is also a HUGE part of it!

But, no.

Now, I’m just mad at myself. I had an opportunity, and I missed it—and I haven’t done that in awhile. Since March 23, 2016, right after I wrote Lose Yourself, I gave myself a 6 month goal to figure out what we should do with DS&D—and in those 6 months, I have taken advantage of, or at least looked into, every opportunity that has come our way.

I figured 6 months was a fair amount of time to figure out what I can do with Dim Sum and Doughnuts, since I have spent the last 5 years learning what I can’t do:

1. I can’t move out of state. That cut a lot of opportunities right off the bat. My husband, Cody, is one of the owners/directors at Camp Tanuga in northern Michigan and his job takes him away 5 months out of the year. He leaves in the middle of April and comes back in the middle of September. With the exception of 7-8 weeks during the summer, I’m alone with the girls during those months. If I move out of state to chase a job opportunity, and Cody is gone too, I can’t imagine our kids will continue going to school, eating vegetables, or showering.

2. I need to be in control. I’m not into someone editing our lives or my work without consent. A few years ago, we were approached about doing a reality show. The producer was surprised (and kind of annoyed) when I told her we weren’t interested in being on TV. She didn’t understand because, as she pointed out: “You put videos up of your kids all the time!” I replied “Yes, but I’m the one who decides what goes up, and I’m the one who decides how my kids are portrayed.” #SoThere

3. I still need to be able to do my promotional business. 20 years in that biz. I’m not giving that up. Whatever new I do, I still need to be able to do that too. (That rhymed.)

4. I need to make money. I like to work, and I like to make money—not gonna apologize for that. I come with a very basic Work Hard mentality:

Business before pleasure.

It means more if you EARN it.

Nothing worth having comes easy.

Money buys things, and things are fun. (I made that one up.)

5. I need to be the boss. I am horrible at working for people. I’ve tried it. It’s one of the reasons I didn’t stick with teaching, even though I loved it. I’m not good with industry politics. I’m too outspoken and opinionated. Whenever someone asks if I work at the overnight camp with my husband, I laugh because I could never work for Cody.

Him: This is what I need you to do:

Me: That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard!




6. Lastly: I need my kids to be a part of anything new I do. Definitely the hardest one because my kids are young and slave labor is illegal—but I know if I’m going to start working more than I already do, it will be more accepted by them if they have a part in it. With ownership comes interest.

My kids know Mommy needs to work or she will go crazy and lose her mind—but because of them, I have limitations. Big ones. I wasn’t giving up though: 6 months is what I gave myself, and 6 months was all I needed.

I set goals, I learned about social media, and I made new connections. I worked long hours and I tried new things. I thought of new business ideas all the time, but there were nagging issues attached to all of them. Nothing seemed to fit.

And then one day, it happened.

An idea was brought to my attention by someone very special to us. I loved it, and it fit PERFECTLY in so many ways, but I quickly dismissed it because it wasn’t like any of the other ideas I was tossing around. This idea requires an entirely new learning curve.

Shoot me.

But JJ was also there when the idea was brought up, and she was all over it. Jumping up and down all over the place: “That’s what we should do, Mama!! Let’s do THAT!!”

And, wouldn’t you know?  My mom was also there, right behind her, pushing me to at least consider the idea because—as she fondly remembers—it was something I always wanted to do when I was growing up.

Still, I laughed and blew it off.

But then it became like one of those guys you like ONLY as a friend, until you find out he likes you—and then you realize he’s actually really cute…

It was like that.

I kept turning and tossing the idea, but every time I tossed it, it came back to me.

Because it was the one.

Once the girls and I decided we wanted to actively pursue the idea, we still had one person holding us up: Cody. School had already started, but Cody was still living and working at camp. His job is one of those all-consuming type jobs so we decided to wait to share our idea until we could tell him in person. We wanted his undivided attention. We still had a few weeks before he moved home though.

Turns out we needed the extra time to get our ideas in order—but when it came time to present the idea to Cody, we were ready.


JJ and I headed the discussion. F was allowed to participate, but only if she cleared it with us first. (We learned early on that F’s biggest concern about any new idea is whether or not it will include a disco ball—so we decided she might not be the best person to lead our presentation. Nothing against disco balls.)

We all said what we needed to say, and Cody liked the idea, a lot. In fact, every single person we approached, and trusted to be honest with us, liked the idea.

So here we are.

We have a lot of work to do (A LOT), but we are excited. I’m kicking myself for not announcing our news in temple when the Rabbi asked “What do you want to do this year?” but I’m very lucky to be able to do it here and now:

“We want to start a new business this year!”

New year; new beginnings. It will likely be a bit before we know if our idea is a “go” or not, because new businesses take time, but if we get the green light, you’ll be the first to know what we have come up with. And hopefully, you will be as excited as we are.

Dim Sum and Doughnuts wouldn’t be everything it is without the support, the likes, the comments, and the shares from you guys. You are all tribe (Jewish or not—we don’t care), and we wish all of you a sweet and Happy New Year.

We hope it’s filled with new things, good things and a solid answer to the question: “What do YOU want to do this year?”

Thank you for sticking with us! We are so grateful! If you think of anyone else who might be into a family brand about growing up, mistakes made and lessons learned, I hope you think of us.


The DS&D Crew



  1. Kathy on October 5, 2016 at 9:22 am

    This is like the biggest cliffhanger I’ve heard of for ever! Whatever is is, and whenever I get to hear what they t actually is, you lead up was fabulous! I’m sitting on the edge of my sear and hope I don’t fall off.
    Luv, dr grandma

    PS is there ever a chance for a lunch/play date perhaps after Sunday school?

    • Robyn on October 5, 2016 at 9:42 am

      So happy to hear from you! We missed you at services the other day! We say J and W and Z though! Next year you will come and we will all sit together.
      A Sunday playdate sounds perfect! You send me some dates that work for you and we are on it! I would love that. Thank you for being here and a part of this. Dr. Mom!! XOXOXO

  2. Deenie on October 5, 2016 at 11:15 am

    NO FAIR that you take us all down this exciting road & then just leave us hanging!!!!!! Can’t wait to hear all about your new endeavor! Having put all this time & energy into developing this new idea, I’m sure it will be great!!!!! Good luck & HAPPY New Year!❤️?

    • Robyn on October 9, 2016 at 9:14 pm

      You are going to LOVE IT, Deenie!! I can’t wait until we are all set up with a business plan and a loan (fingers crossed) and then I will tell and YOU WILL LOVE!! XOXOXO Thank you for being here from the beginning. I don’t know what I’d do without you!

  3. Leah on October 5, 2016 at 1:27 pm

    Congrats on whatever this new business idea is! We own pizza businesses in Brooklyn, what a wild ride it’s been!

    • Robyn on October 9, 2016 at 9:13 pm

      I bet it’s been some kind of ride! Pizza! Where in BK? We are heading there for Thanksgiving. Thank you for being here, Leah! XOXO

  4. gina on October 5, 2016 at 9:42 pm

    OH my shitsticks.. seriously.. while the lead in was awesome.. I’m.. left.. ugh.. i can’t even type it out.. what what what is going on.. 🙂

    • Robyn on October 9, 2016 at 9:12 pm

      Hi G! GO BUCKS! I figure if I say that, it will keep you happy. XOXOXO r

  5. Lisa McFerren on October 5, 2016 at 10:05 pm

    I am beyond excited for all of you! Can’t wait to hear what you new business will be! Congrats, Happy New Year and Good Luck!

    • Robyn on October 9, 2016 at 9:11 pm

      Lisa!! Hi!! Thank you! I’m so happy you’re a part of this. We found you at the perfect time! The page got moving when you came, your energy is that strong. TY for being a part of all of this! I know I say this all the time but I do wish you lived closer!! XOXO

  6. Sharon on October 6, 2016 at 6:15 am

    I am so excited for you!! If I can help you in any way, please let me know! Love to all of you!

    • Robyn on October 9, 2016 at 9:10 pm

      You are already helping by being a part of DS&D but also being a part of our lives. We love you guys!! Feeling very fortunate to have friends like you right now! XXOXOXO R

  7. Katie on October 7, 2016 at 6:36 am

    Congrats to all of you! I can only imagine what you divas can do! Limitless!

    • Robyn on October 9, 2016 at 9:08 pm

      You’re the best, KJ! We feel very lucky that JJ and H found each other so we could get hooked up with you guys. You’re a very special family and we love you guys! TY for all the support. We’re excited and you will love it! XO

  8. Brian Lev on October 10, 2016 at 7:41 am

    You realize, of course, that at least one of your loyal readers is one of those people for whom end credits that read, “To Be Continued…” are cause for much gnashing of teeth, pulling of hair, and interesting language? (Actually, my sister’s a lot worse with that than I am, but still…) A big l’shana tovah to you & your crew anyway — but don’t leave us hangin’!!!!

    • Robyn on October 17, 2016 at 4:19 pm

      Hi B!
      Hearing from you always makes me happy. Here’s what I can tell you.
      1. You’re going to love the idea.
      2. You will probably never, ever have any use for it.
      I hope you stick with us though! You have the BEST JiuJui! (Get it?)